OF-1829: Prevent NPE when removing from a non-cached collection.
When multi-valued caches are used, removing an element from a collection that is not (or no longer) in the cache should not throw a null pointer exception.
I suspect that in clustered environments, where caches are managed by all cluster nodes, there's a chance of the same removal to be executed by each node on the
same cache, which could trigger an issue like this.
OF-1830: Add ignorable message during TLS handshake abort.
This extends the solution that was introduced by OF-1009 with another exception message that's similar to the one already being handled as a 'normal' handshake rejection.